A Parent's Guide to Understanding and Accepting Your Child's Sexuality

Written by Jose Pinal | Date 03/05/2023

"It was like a bomb went off," the mother described her reaction when her son revealed he is attracted to boys. "How can I help him?" her trembling voice kept repeating. He was sobbing." She went on to say how she never expected to hear something like that from her child.

The mother questioned whether it was "normal" for someone as young as her 14-year-old child to be attracted to the same sex. Furthermore, her guilt caused her to wonder if her child's sexual orientation arose as a result of her divorce from her ex-husband.

Many parents grew up in homes where sexuality was either minimized or not discussed at all, so such disclosures by children are unexpected and have a significant impact. How do parents deal with their children's sexual orientation disclosures?

First and foremost, parents must take a deep breath and try to remain calm. It's easy to let emotions take over, but keep in mind that your child needs your support now more than ever.

One important thing to remember is that your child's sexual orientation is not something they can choose or change. It is a part of who they are, and accepting and loving them for who they are is essential. Your child needs to know that you love and support them regardless of their sexual orientation.

Another critical step is self-education. Learn about what it means to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, as well as the unique challenges and experiences that come with it. This will not only help you better understand your child, but it will also prepare you to be an ally and advocate for them in the future.

It's also critical to communicate with your child and let them know they can talk to you about anything, including their sexual orientation. Encourage open and honest communication, and listen without judgment.

Finally, seek out assistance for yourself. It can be difficult for parents to navigate their child's sexual orientation, so having a support system of friends, family, or professionals to help you through the process is essential.

Remember that your role as a parent is to love and support your child. Accepting and embracing their sexual orientation allows them to feel seen, heard, and valued for who they are.